Living in Fear or Certainty?

“People haven't stopped wanting to be in love, they just don't believe in a happy ending anymore. They still believe in love and falling in love, but they know now that...romances almost never end as well as they begin" - Shantaram

Why is it so hard for a human mind to stop delving into its past and start living in the present? Certain things happen to us so that we can learn and grow from them. Yes we do learn, we do grow, but at the back of our mind we also tend to create a certain mind block which keeps going back and forth and cautions us and keeps reminding us of what had happened and if we're not careful this time, we may as well go back in time and relive those not so very happy moments and lessons again. It isn't a very pretty sight to be living in.

Back to love and romance. So yes we all almost have been hurt at least once (or more) in our lives when it comes to loving someone. Either you were cheated on, betrayed or things could not work out for whatever reasons. Yea yea whatever happens is for the best...but do you honestly think about that when it is actually happening to you in that very moment? How do you find the best in the worst situation? You don't. I am a part believer of fate and a firm believer of make your own destiny. Becuase if you do want something to work out, you will make it happen. But sometimes what you want is not what your loved one would want, hence the clash. And no matter how much we get over it or however long back that happened, these are memories and lessons which never leave us and continue to haunt us in all our present relationships, ones which are being formed and the ones which will in the future.

No two people are alike - I used to find myself often saying. But why have I become a victim of constant comparison between my present and my past? Just like two people, no two moments are alike - this is your present and that was your past. It was your past for a reason. Your present is a moment to live in right now for a reason as well. A moment you only dreamt about. You cannot come to terms with the fact that it is actually happening to you, hence you cannot deal with it and make up every excuse to doubt it. It does not come with an instruction manual - life does not. Fate gives you a chance and you have to create life out of it. Otherwise the moment will pass by. It comes as a test of time and faith and to put into action all your thoughts of how you believed it could be.
Trust yourself and believe in yourself. It is far more important than trusting someone else first. It is about your capability to be able to give into something and someone which could turn out to be the most beautiful time of your life. Having certainty in oneself and not looking for it in the other.